I think my child is suffering medical trauma: a parent asks

I think my child is suffering medical trauma: a parent asks

Dear Brooke, I just read your article on restraints in medical procedures and trauma in children. My son was retrained as he needed his eyes flushed. I feel like a horrible failure of a mother for letting them. He was screaming and crying for me to stop them for the entire time. I thought he’d go blind if they didn’t do it. I explained all of this to him and he seemed okay later but I learned later they could’ve sedated him! I hadn’t known this was an option. This was a couple of months ago. I want to do what I can to make sure the damage is minimal for him even though he doesn’t seem upset by it now and seems to understand why it was done. It was the most heartbreaking experience of my life and It was traumatizing for him. I’ve asked advice from a few behaviour specialists but they didn’t say much. Do you have any advice? Melanie Hi Melanie, Firstly, I am so sorry that you and your son had to go through that. You are a great mother and I can see from your message that you always do your best. Parenting is tough and it should never be underestimated. It sounds like you were a great support to your son when he was going through this experience. That is the main thing. When a child has to be restrained, the key is to have the right support and it sounds like you provided that to him. So there are a few things you can do for him that might give you...
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